learn from mistakes. it is our inate prowess to point out the bad in subjects and lement that as standard. this happens because people dont use their heads. emotion its self is chaos, can we forgo it? easily.. will you be happy? probably not. as shakespear said "better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all." sometimes what we seek is not around our living area or isnt exactly our age. this is common.. my advice NEVER LOWER YOUR STANDARDS. to live without it isnt to live, and the moments of pure extasy..? well measure not life in the amount of breaths taken, but in the moments that take our breath away.. and it becomes a little more clear. in our small little existance we are without freedom when you find that right person, freedom is acheived through them. and that! is our single most intoxicating device. dont be down about it, things will happen.

here if you ever need me
-kam

love is the mental justification of fondness for someone tied with the desires of carnal and sometimes primal actions of cortship, mating, and even fornication.

humans are animals too..

ironically enough the spectrum its self is shrouded with controversey and missjudgement, once again a human habbit, give a man an apple, doesnt mean he will eat it. freewill warrants that man the power to do anything he wishes with it. ergo there is your problem. the problem with existance is chioce, <-- heard that somewhere.. but yes our greatest gift is a big weakness too.  reguardless of morality, i would base it on the desired person and their personal mental structure and conversation of that. to put it simple, dont love just some idiot, dont love for looks, dont love for personality alone. a trinity must be found within your target and understanding must be achieved between you. only become fond of that which profits you.